Controlling Emotions During Stressful Situations

Uncontrolled Emotions Will Ruin Your Judgment

I'm reminded of a Coach Wooden story at the beginning of his teaching career at South Bend Central High School when one of his students, fathers was on the school board. Coach was 99% sure he would recommend this student for a high school basketball letter even if he did not fit the criteria. This student "had worked hard with a good positive attitude throughout the season, and although he lacked adequate playing time, Wooden strongly considered him for a varsity letter in basketball."

Coach Wooden said , "A few days before I had written out my final list of letterman, the player's father" suddenly "appeared in my office." Without even a hello, he demanded to know - " Are you going to put his son's name on The list? "

"I have not made my final decision yet. I may include him, but technically your son does not qualify."

"The man poked his finger in Coach's chest and threatened," Wooden, he'd better get a letter or I'll have your job. "

Wooden was angry and even challenged the man to "settle things outside."

" Emotion had taken over for common sense , and fortunately, the boy's father stormed out of the office, but not before he repeated his demand and threatened Wooden's coaching job. Emotions got the best of him and he decided not to recommend the young man for A letter even though moments before he was 99 percent "planning on doing so.

Coach said, "It was an awful thing for me to do. In fact, after turning in the list of student athletes who were going to get letters, I came to my senses, cooled off, and tried to get the boy's name added. But it was too late. "

Coach Wooden learned a valuable lesson that day about "Controlling Emotions During Stressful Situations". He said the following:

1) "If you let your emotions take over, you'll be outplayed because you'll make unnecessary errors; your judgment will be impaired"

2) "A volatile leader is like a bottle of nitroglycerine ." " The slightest knock and it blows up." Those around nitroglycerine or a temperamental boss spend all their time carefully tiptoeing back and forth rather than doing their jobs. A winning organization. "

3) "Strive to provide a leadership model that is dependable and reliable and productive in the area of ​​emotions."

Coach Wooden, over time "became very good at controlling" his emotions. He was later called "a cold fish" and considered it a compliment. His former student and player Fred Slaughter described Coach Wooden, as "cool when it counted; his confidence and strength became ours. He had a positive attitude, focusing on moving forward with what we had to learn to make us better." Slaughter said about Coach Wooden, "A cool leader prevails overheating." ("Wooden On Leadership" by John Wooden and Steve Jamison )

For over 70 years Coach taught his students, teachers, assistant coaches, and family members the importance of "self-control". He said, "Practice self-discipline and keep emotions under control. Good judgment and common sense are essential." (Wooden's "Pyramid of Success")

Coach Wooden 70 years later still remembered how he let his emotions interfere with his good judgment pointing that young basketball player who did not receive a basketball letter.

Coach Wooden's "3 Rules to lead by":

1) "Control emotion or emotion will control you."

2) "Avoid excess.

3) "Instill emotional discipline."

Coach Wooden wore a poker face. After winning a championship, he was asked by the news media how he felt about it. He said, "I'm pleased!"

In my early years as a professor at a local college on a military base in Virginia, I was teaching a three-credit course required for all Bachelor degrees. We were reviewing the materials for our first test of the semester and everyone was taking notes. One of my students, an officer in the military, told his fellow classmates and me during our class, "that he had a photographic memory and did not need to write anything down." I said, "It's always good to write something down to jog your memory at a later time."

A week later we had our first test. After grading the papers, everyone in the class had made A's and B + 'accept "Mr. Photographic memory" which grade on the test was an "F".

I handed the test papers back to the class the next week of class.

After class "Officer Photographic memory" waited till everyone in the class had left and cornered me in the room and said, "If you do not give me an" A "on this test I will make up a false charge against you. An officer in the CIA. "

"I took a deep breath, remained calm and quiet, and listened to him." When he finished talking, I asked him "What happened to your photographic memory?" He made no reply and left.

After class I went home and thought about the student's threat to me. The next morning I called the Dean of the College and reported the student's name and the threat he had made to me, after failing his test. "

The Dean said , " Give him what he describes. I will take care of him! He is CID, Central Intelligence Department."

What 3 three steps can you take to "control your emotions during difficult situations"?

1) Take 1 to 2 deep breaths, keep calm, and quiet!

2) Listen to the threatening person without interfering or arguing with them.

3) When the threatening person leaves, focus your thinking on how to resolve the situation. If you need assistance then ask yourself is there an honest and trustworthy person in control of the organization who can advise me?

For me calling the Dean of the College set me free!

By following these 3 steps you will learn to be like Coach Wooden able to control your emotions during stressful situations. Coach Wooden said, "Seek consistency-avoid peaks and valleys. Remember be like a businessman, wear a poker face., And control your emotions

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Source by Madeline Frank